Shifang also mentioned her social observation that if Taiwanese women keep giving them at a young age, they will also turn over to force other women to delay when they are old, because "I have been so hard before", which will lead to women...
Shifang also mentioned her social observation that if Taiwanese women keep giving them at a young age, they will also turn over to force other women to delay when they are old, because "I have been so hard before", which will lead to women's copying in the underworld. "We should be grateful when our parents grow up, but we also have to take the initiative to decide what to do in my life."
It is clear that we have done a good job in financial planning, but we fall into poverty after we grow old; it is clear that we have heard from our parents, and after we get familiar with each other... The characters written by the financial writer Shifang (Li Yawen), the story of life is always amazing, and women are as skinless as if they are covered with skin.
"Unnecessary Casino" (Taiwanese word, meaning smart and capable of fucking) can awaken from the fate of being a family sacrifice? It’s not that you don’t have emotions, but that you keep a breath and fight for yourself. Don't worry about everyone, and I will regret myself in the end.
Why should there be a financial boundary? This is a life line that respects oneself. "The love line has been very popular these years, but no one seems to have talked about the "Money Line". I know how to say it, but the division between money and emotions is blurred."
In her fans, readers often come to write about life problems of complaining about money.
In her fan group, readers often come to believe in the life problems of complaining about money.
She said, "In fact, many of them are incomprehensible."
She found that these stories have the same prototypes and were slammed by love. On the one hand, they follow the expectations of their parents and society, while on the other hand, they are afraid that their own financial desires will be ruined.
Whenever she receives these letters, she does not give warm and comforting gentle people, but directly gives specific action plans. She was so rational and clear that she also published the book "The Financial Line with Family", which all had something to do with her original family.
Reasons for women to be greedy and tolerant of themselves
"Many people think I am strong, no, it's because I'm very vulnerable. I've definitely seen my mother's life ruined, so I want to tell these stories."
"My mother has been raising her uncle and uncle when she was young, so she let them dry her like a vampire, and she would never be beaten. My mother waited until she was 60 years old before she was surprised that her life was limited, but she had no money on her body and was in heavy financial anxiety. These are the life I saw "suffering for others."
Shifang said that although her works reveal a lot of childhood events, they are far less than one percent of the family stories. In the drama "no one is responsible for themselves", hard work, setbacks, victims and perpetrators, emotional blackmail... are repeated. She had heard that "living body quality will be passed on", and the overly savage mother will also let her daughter step on her "unlearning path".
"Women will start to wake up when they are 40-what will they go through my life next? I have a story I will share with you. Women of different ages all encounter the "money difficulties" caused by their feelings."
The borrowing mirror for 30 years old: you have to have money for a single body, otherwise you will be alone in the end
"I recently received another letter that she is 31 years old and ranked second among the three sisters. After her father failed in business in middle age, he relied on his mother to do rough work to support her. But her father and mother have both suffered from cancer in the past two years. The most savings she paid for her medical care and living expenses. But after she took out her savings and salary, she couldn't help but worry, then if I want to get married in the future, what if I get old and sick?"
"The other letter is a 50-year-old girl. Her family background is very similar to that of this girl. Although she has an older brother, her mother has been asking her for money for a long time, regardless of salary or bonus, she has to pay it to her mother. However, her mother even used these "filial piety fees" to her brother for "pocket money". After she was 50, she became more and more anxious because she had nothing but basic insurance."
"This is like a time-space-crossing "dialogue" between 50 and 30 years old. I used their examples to both parties to hear it. We mistakenly thought that there was no choice, but the fact is that there will be no choice in life. If the money is exceeded by your burden, it will also affect your life plan. You must say "stop" to your mother.
"The story of 50 is the best borrowing mirror for 30 years. After 10 years or 10 years, when you make every effort, you will really have nothing in the end. When you are alone, you are old and sick, and need money, who will come to help you?"
No longer copy the money! Women rely on themselves and should be more flexible in methods
The ten directions discuss that choosing comes from the "spirituality". When parents are sick, they do not care about them, but financial solutions are not a single answer, they can be multiple choices. For example, a house at home can be the most effective loan, aged care with a house, and a filial piety fee can be clearly defined between you and your brothers and sisters. The way is always thought of, and what you fear most is that you think "this is the only way", and standing still will make people unable to see the resources.
"I also encountered a case where my mother never stopped asking her for too much living expenses. She also realized at the age of 30 or 40 that she was really penniless. Finally, she decided to go out and buy a small suite, and said to her mother with confidence: "Mom, I now have a fixed monthly expenditure, and I can't give you all the money like before." In fact, mothers have more money and more money, and less money and less money.. ”
Shifang also mentioned her social observation that if Taiwanese women keep giving them at a young age, they will also turn over to force other women to delay when they are old, because "I have been so hard before", which will lead to women's copying in the underworld.
"Parents should be grateful when they grow up, but we must also take the initiative to decide what to do in my life."
Don't be a victim again! After middle age, learning will move towards a prosperous life. Analysis of the ten directions. Life can start over at any time, as long as you don’t fall into three realms: one is the lack of the ability to see resources; the second is to feel that you are a victim; and the third is to feel that you are full of powerlessness.
"I have seen so many stories, including my own native family. I want to tell everyone that even if there is nothing, she has a brain and social resources. She needs to use her brain to adjust resources, look for banks, experts, and friends who are good at studying for money and money."
"But we usually don't have the patience. When we encounter difficulties, we will return to cry, as if we are saying, "It's all others who harm me." If you talk about things like Guan Mi, life will always be bumped into the wall. So don't stay in place to analyze your situation, and accept your current state."
"You can definitely make a different choice. Even if your mother asks you for a thousand yuan, your rejection will definitely start. Remove the self-moaning and go to the bill to find out what you can do. Financial management is actually to recognize yourself, organize yourself, and order your future goals, such as how many millions of dollars you want to deposit? Submit the number, and then draw a form for your financial management to determine how much you want to save every year. Action starts from any small place. If you can't refuse your parents, you can buy a house, no matter how small it is, a car seat, and insurance."
"The most important thing is that before the "Plate" campaign, there will be a period of curbs. We are prone to psychological obstacles, which are the victim's mentality, but we have to overcome this obstacle. It's like we sometimes start driving and take another road, and many people will stay where they say I don't want to change! I am willing to go the original path."
"Just like our fathers are, they have been formed, and it is useless to stay in place to analyze. Don't think you are very worried. Once you feel that you are poor, you lack the courage to change. If you think you can't change, you have to endure it all the time, and your life will fall into a negative cycle."
Don't give all the money to your children, and you can give it to others if you have the means
Not only should children plan a healthy financial line with their parents and friends, but the ten directions also encourage the retired ethnic group to be clear about the financial line. Everything comes from being responsible for their own life, and also allowing children and other friends to be responsible for their own life.
"The first step is to organize your own financial statements, you must organize your insurance, house and other assets, and you must also sort out the invisible assets and how much money you can borrow. These are important circles in financial planning, not just cash deposits, but also how much money you have to borrow."
"The second thing is to think bravely. What dreams are there not real? Are there any things you still do in your life? The more specific the better, the better. Speak how much different your dreams are from your resources and don't work. Then start to arrange the priority order, draw them off, and let yourself become "rich" in your later years, and leave no regrets within the scope of financial tolerance."
Finally, the ten directions encourage familiar friends to use their money to themselves and give them some strength to others.
"You can write your home first, but don't rush to allocate your property first. Let's think from a different perspective, then if you give your house to your children early, are you treating your children well? When the house is still your own asset, you will have more tools to adjust your mind."
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