Some people say that after the age of 50, they live a kind of mind! When Wu Danru accepted the "Far-Seeing Magazine", he mentioned: "Every time he ran a marathon, he was very fortunate to stick to it. It was a kind of ambition to neve...
Some people say that after the age of 50, they live a kind of mind! When Wu Danru accepted the "Far-Seeing Magazine", he mentioned: "Every time he ran a marathon, he was very fortunate to stick to it. It was a kind of ambition to never give up on his pursuit of milestones in life. It made me believe that I am still a master of my body and can still treat my soul with a smile."
Haruki Murakami loved running the marathon, and Wu Danru followed him when he started running the marathon. He thought Haruki Murakami was better than hers, so why couldn't he do it? Wu Danru ran the whiskey marathon in Sogland and the Poldor Red Wine Marathon. In the process, this is a movement that he cannot pass away, but "a fulfilling life is a process of striking in the fun he cannot pass away."
{99}Lin Cuifen, a consultant psychologist, said that from the perspective of psychology, many people will look back on the past, and many people are ushering in a new development. As Wu Danru's friend, she smiled and said, "Danru shouldn't retire! She is interested in and constantly challenging herself, dancing flamenco dance, studying photography, painting, pottery, coffee tasting, e-commerce, traveling around the world, and her life is colorful." In addition to getting the GIA treasure trove, she is currently preparing to take the red wine photos, experience a new professional field, and get the photos to bring her endless power to her, and she is happy to realize herself.
Lin Cuifen said, Confucius said, "At thirty, at forty, at forty, at forty, at heaven's destiny, at sixty, at seventy, at all, at all, at seventy, at the concept of Chinese development psychology. At the age of fifty, whether it is a good heart or a bad heart, most of the basic tasks in life have been completed. Some people focus on looking back on the past, while others want to create a new domain, or update in the same domain, eager to do what they really like.
Three faces in the second half of life
In the second half of life{50, people after the age of 50, they do not have self-restrictions, so they can see more, think more, try more, and there are many possibilities for self-realization, and you can talk about it from the following three faces:
❶ Create more possibilitiesSome people are eager to retire, and Lin Cuifen himself does not encourage retirement, and some people have no focus as soon as they leave the job site, and some have traveled several times, Some have become professions, some have attended several classes, but they have not been able to last long. "Unless you know very well what kind of life you have to live after retirement, retirement will be the beginning of a crisis." After the age of 50, I am about to reach the peak of the throne, and there is still a lot of things to do. This is a good period of reflection. You can see what I have done and give myself more encouragement. It turns out that I have accomplished such a lot of things.
"Practitioners do not need to retire. Many psychologists are very old and still live in the psychology world. As they grow older, they will get more points." Lin Cuifen said. Many years ago, I met a psychologist who came to Taiwan to teach at the age of 89. One day it rained heavily. The crowd hinted with urges her to be careful and worry about her physical condition. She smelled that everyone was particularly concerned about her age and said unhappily: "I am OK in everything, don't evaluate me with my age!" I hope that Taiwan society can break the discrimination against the elderly. As we grow older, we like ourselves more and more. No matter whether the things we do are harvested or not, we can affirm ourselves. Every life practice is a harvest of life.
I noticed in the consulting office that many parties have deep regrets and regrets after they reach the age of 50, and feel that some goals in their lives have not been achieved: they have been upset to make mistakes in their past and make mistakes in their youth, and want to go back to the first half of their life, and deny themselves. The more they think about it, the more they feel lost, frustrated, and anxious.
Lin Cuifen reminds that after all 50 years old, don’t deny your past efforts. Self-affirmation is very important. We can look back on the past, but don’t deny your past. No matter what decisions you have in the past, there will be some degree of gain. Don’t be upset about the past, but try to create more possibilities.
❷Midlife crisis is a challenge brought by lifeLife after the age of 50, Western psychologist Rong Ge said: "Midlife crisis is a challenge brought by life and opportunities brought by life." At this stage, I felt a lot of emotion and a sense of crisis in my heart. I might suddenly have various doubts about things I believed in before, feel that life is empty, or suddenly feel that the things I have fought hard no longer attractive, and no longer do anything. It seems that something will happen. Then I think about the person I want to become and what is the meaning of life?
The proportion of men who come to the shop for discussion is relatively high. Some people think they have stopped, their current work or life has lost their sense of value, and they don’t feel like they have a sense of accomplishment, or something strange, as if they can only chase someone else’s taillights; women get older and clearer, they know what they want. The more frequent midlife crisis in women is related to self-assessment and conflicts, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's troubles, family and child relationships become tight, and when children grow up and leave their homes, can they be independent in the future? I worry that children have no suitable measures in social changes and will become dependents. ……
Some people say that middle age is the second "rebellious period" in life. I am amazed that life passes faster and faster, and life is still moving on the spot. There is a sense of urgency that if you don't do it now and you will be too late in the future, which makes middle-aged people make decisions that surprise their family and friends. For example, some people are willing to start from scratch with high-level management, some people are willing to work abroad as volunteers, some people are turning on the runway, some people are wandering abroad, some people are divorced, etc..
Whether a person has a sense of happiness, international relations play an important key, and decide whether to live or work smoothly. As age grows, people need more human relations. After some people leave their jobs, their focus is limited to their homes. You might as well expand outside to make people who are 50 years old more comfortable.
When people reach middle age, they know very well what type of friends they like to live with. No one is perfect. Everyone has symptoms and irritation, because they understand themselves and the other party, and choose to keep friends who are comfortable to live with.
Lin Cuifen himself likes to be with old friends. Everyone has participated in important stages of each other's life. They have spent many years of true companionship, and have various ups and downs, so they can make an appointment to do something fun. New friends can develop their vision and keep people young. You might as well deliberately meet new friends in life. The purpose of recording film shows is when Lin Cuifen knows his cross-domain friends.
I noticed in the consulting room that after the age of 50, many people enjoy the fun of learning new things and are very curious about unfamiliar areas. Some people will suddenly be interested in garden art, plant flowers and plants, and understand that life is a learning question, and they feel very stressful. Some people only start to learn piano after middle age, but they play well, and their emotions and finger skills are in place; some people love oil painting, and some studios launch basic courses to allow beginners to easily paint scenery and quiet objects; some people learn to brew, cook, and roast coffee, making life more colorful.
Change life scripts, and 5-step practice of "psychological muscle strength"
"Positive thinking" will help life develop in an ideal direction, strengthen psychological muscle strength, and avoid psychological energy flowing incorrectly, and your feelings will be different! Learn to adjust your psychological state, cultivate the courage to change, develop your own growth, accept unexpected trials, change emotional pressure, and help yourself avoid depression.
❶ Learn to digest negative emotions: Through learning, we can eliminate unwillingness and anger in our hearts. When our heart is filled with positive energy, we can stop and let emotions flow to a worthwhile place.
❷Turn your attention to happiness experience: admit that you are not doing well, allow yourself to be imperfect, and if you want to change your life script, you must shift your attention and turn it to what you want to do.
❸ Be brave to overcome obstacles: the struggle in life is like climbing a mountain, and all the roads can lead to the dream path; there are learning to walk incorrectly, and there are unexpected gains from walking in the distance; as long as you know how to turn fear or pressure into constructive actions, you can guide yourself to achieve the goal of life.
❹Pursuing excellence is more important than winning profits.
❺When you fail, you must also affirm your efforts: rely on your own strength to change the bad news. In addition to complimenting yourself in success, don’t forget to turn back when you fail, and see how many difficulties you have overcome along the way and how difficult it is to walk. If you still see your own full-time picture while you are constantly experiencing it, it can become the power to support yourself in life, which is something that others cannot take away, and the concentration in your heart.
