Everyone says that the days after marriage are the two families, but if they divorce or their partner is gone, will you still come with your in-laws, father-in-law and mother-in-law? Recently, a Japanese media reported that a famous family host took...
Everyone says that the days after marriage are the two families, but if they divorce or their partner is gone, will you still come with your in-laws, father-in-law and mother-in-law? Recently, a Japanese media reported that a famous family host took the child back to her parents' home in a short time after her husband passed away, and also lifted the legal relationship with her husband and mother-in-law. When the mother-in-law found out afterwards, she was quite surprised.
The husband passed away, and after a week of funeral, his 41-year-old wife decided to take her child back to her parents' homeA 43-year-old man with a pseudonym Yanshan and a 41-year-old woman with a pseudonym Xiaoai are a couple who rented an apartment in Tokyo and lived with her daughter who was just in elementary school this year. Yinshan serves as a middle-level manager in an IT company, with a monthly income of 580,000 yen (about NT$120,000). Xiaoyan is a full-time home host, and both parties use their own strength to support the family.
Yunshan, who had no special diseases and had abnormal health examinations on weekdays, suddenly fainted at home one day and died after being rushed to the hospital in a hurry. The cause of death was determined to be myocardial infarction, which undoubtedly caused a huge blow to the family.
As a wife, Xiao Ai felt deeply saddened and still became strong to highlight her husband's after the story of her husband, but what her mother-in-law did not expect was that after the 49-day memorial service, Xiao Ai took her daughter back to her parents' home in Kyushu within a week.
Recalling why she didn't stay in Tokyo with her mother-in-law's family, Xiaoai said that after her husband passed away, she and her mother-in-law had many differences in the funeral process. In the past, her mother-in-law often interfered in family matters such as child care, but at that time, her husband was still there and could act as a slip between two people to protect her from grievances, but now she feels it is necessary to start a new environment.
After moving to Kyushu, Xiaoai then applied for a divorce process, which is also called the "death divorce system after death" in Japan. The applicant can handle it alone and legally end the marriage relationship with his spouse after his spouse's death.
In order to avoid the awkwardness of things, Xiaoai did not inform her mother-in-law about this in advance. When her mother-in-law went to pick up the account list four months later, she discovered that the legal relationship with her daughter-in-law had been lifted, and she was surprised that she had become a stranger. The love also explained that she believed that after her husband passed away, the two parties had no relationship, and they were not really quarrel with their mother-in-law, but just hoped that they could live their own lives. However, no matter what, the other party was still the important grandmother of the daughter and would exchange greeting cards during the New Year to show concern.
When Japan's divorce system changes face to face, it can be more flexible in handling marital relations. In Taiwan, our Civil Law stipulates that when one spouse dies, the marriage relationship between the two will disappear immediately, but the marital relations will not be terminated. Therefore, taking the example of a love, after the husband dies, she and her mother-in-law still have legal rights relations.
The case of Xiaoyan also shows the changes in modern people's family awareness. In addition, the era of high aging has become more complicated. We hope that there will be more discussions and supporting measures in society so that the lives of different roles can be guaranteed at different stages.
